My son will not go to treatment after seeing the body of his murdered brother

Dear Abe: Last year, my son, girlfriend and two others were killed outside the city of “Things like these do not happen.” The other two boys received a call to attend immediately to their father’s house, where this happened. My children were the first to see the bloody scene. Call 911. My son lived two days more. Today was his birthday. His brothers witnessed something that exceeds his imagination.

My younger (now 32) isolate himself. He has become a different person, as we all have. I am worried about it. He was always a great young man. Now its nerves are fast, and a short wet. I invited him to come with me in a smuggler for a few days, but he refused. He told me that he does not know why; He does not want to be around people. I know why. It is because of what happened.

How can I persuade him to search for advice? She also withdrew from society, for about three months. But I got advice during that time. I am lost about what to do. Any advice will be very appreciated. – Live in a nightmare

Dear Live: Please accept my deeper sympathy with the tragedy that your family has suffered. Because your son is resistant to the idea of ​​consulting, suggested that he may benefit from joining a support group of people like himself. A group called POMC parents (POMC) provides emotional support to the survivors of killing and helps them restore their lives together. It has been present since 1978 and has been mentioned in my column. The site is POMC.ORG, and I hope your son agrees to verify it.

Dear Abe: My 17 -year -old granddaughter dates back to a 19 -year -old boy. He recently confirmed that he was drinking alcohol. (He found a place that is not verified.) Initially, one or two beer was on weekends. Then he started drunk every week. Now he is drunk during the week. He said that my granddaughter is aware, but I am not sure if she knows how much he was drinking.

They say they are planning for a future together, and this is what makes drinking about it. I have seen what alcohol could do for the family. He says he will not become addicted to alcohol, but I know that it can happen without realizing this until it is too late. Is there anything I can do to help these young people? Unlike drinking, he is a nice and respectful boy. – Jeddah is anxious in Ohio

Dear Jeddah: From what I wrote, this gentle and respectful young man developed depending on alcohol. Beware of your granddaughter about what this might mean for its future. And if you can know who was selling alcohol to young people without the legal age, then the person is distorted to. please!

Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call dear Abe in http://www.dearabby.com Or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.