My sister is trying to kill my 98 -year -old mother

Dear Abe: I live five hours from my head. My mom is 98 and in living there. In recent years, my younger sister has become harsh for our mother and tries to benefit from her.

Instead of helping my mother, do things to disturb her intentionally and raise blood pressure. Example: Put the dog tube on the grave of my brother who died recently and stole a pistol from my mother’s house. She also threatened to remove my mother’s chair from her during her tour. My sister caused great issues in the living facility with help, which greatly disturbs my poor mom, because she loves the care she gets there.

My older brother and I have met a lawyer to get a request not to be exposed, and not to contact my mother’s facility. It is still in this process. My sister puts a completely different mask in her church and everyone thinks she is a victim. What do you suggest to do in the future with this control out of control, full of hate brotherhood? – My sister was ashamed of Ontario, Canada

Dear sister: The term what your sister is doing is the abuse of the elderly. The theft and threat of doing something would cause great physical harm. Continue working with the lawyer based on the order not to call and let the process play. You must inform your mother’s doctors about what is going on. What the worshipers think about its church should not have any result.

Dear Abe: He was 55 years old and married 15 years ago. I have two children, between the ages of 22 and 25. Both of them alone, and live their lives. My wife is 45 years old. She has a 25 -year -old son who has a four -year -old computer and claims that he cannot find a job. He refuses to search for another job to fill it until something opens on computers. Half of the night remains rising and playing games online, and sleeps until noon. He has a large amount in his savings and he is able to play the stock market, so it is not as if he was broken and he cannot start living alone.

My wife will not leave her because she is her only child. She is not a single time, no romantic nights or dinner without it. He is always here and participates in everything, and you are tired of it. I have reached a point in my life where I want to enjoy my time with my wife alone.

We are shopping for a new house, but I am ready to say that we buy a house together on our own, only two of us, or I go divorce and buy a house myself. I feel that it is time until his mother is lost and his life gets. Do you agree or am I very sensitive? – Above it in Arizona

Dear above: You are not very sensitive. Your wife seems to have a serious state of anxiety separation when it comes to her son, which is healthy. Suppose you discussed this with her to no avail. If this is not true, then you should. If this is true, it is time for marriage and family treatment with a licensed person. If your wife refuses to go, the alternative is to make an appointment with a lawyer who can help you “decipher the knot”.

Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call dear Abe in http://www.dearabby.com Or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.