My husband gets angry every time I make a mistake in ordering takeout

Dear Abby: This letter is embarrassing to write. When calling to order takeout, my husband wants me to ask the price of each item and gets upset if the price differs from the online menu price. I understand that in this economy, there are bound to be increases.

One day, the difference was about $5. Because I didn’t question it, a heated argument ensued. He said, “Just forget it!” (I called back and said my husband no longer wanted it.)

These fast food places are crowded and understaffed. I don’t think it’s right to bring up more faults with them. I also had a stroke and cannot do quick calculations in my head. We have the money, otherwise I wouldn’t place the order.

I tried to discuss the disagreement; I just want to be right, he said. That was over 40 years I spent with him.

He was poor growing up, but we are by no means poor anymore. It’s his controlling behavior that I hate. His reaction is always the same: “Why don’t you go away? Go away!”

I know he reads your column. Maybe you can help. I know I’m tired, and I think his behavior is abusive and emotionally controlling.

He is 64 and too old to act this way. Unfortunately, he’s been this way his whole life. i need help. – Eating out in Ohio

Dear Eating Out: It goes without saying that from now on your husband should be the one ordering fast food. If he wants it to be a team effort, he can dictate the numbers for you to write down and add up himself.

I don’t think his comments about you leaving him are helpful, unless he is in control of other aspects of your marriage.

Remind him that if your disagreements are over money, divorce will be much more expensive than marriage counseling. Then ask your doctor for a referral.

Dear Abby: I enjoy your column and read it often. I feel compelled to comment on “Remorse in the Midwest” (June 11).

I feel like you didn’t go any further with this letter from the mother of a trans adult whose new co-worker made fun of trans people in front of her, and presumably in front of others.

Such behavior is no longer tolerated in the workplace, and she should report it to her supervisor or Human Resources if there is another occurrence. (She can do it now.)

She certainly doesn’t need to reveal her personal situation. -Kevin H. In california

Dear Kevin: Thank you for writing. The feedback I received on that letter was helpful.

Several readers have told me that the term I used to refer to trans people—gender dysphoria—is outdated and no longer in use.

With the American Psychiatric Association’s publication of the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), this term was deleted and replaced with the term “gender dysphoria,” clearly stating that gender nonconformity is not a “disorder.” I should have known better. My mistake.

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